As a nanny-less mom, there has always been a lingering feeling to redeem myself. A myriad of questions pop in my mind: “Can I still do what I want to do? Am I still good enough? Is reaching for my dreams considered out of my bounds? When will I progress? Will I ever progress? But how?”
We have three kids and we are juggling the activities in our humble household. I thought my dreams will never come true, but not until I landed a home-based job here in the Philippines.
Here is what I am doing to survive freelancing without any household help:
I got a non-voice home-based job with a flexible schedule. This is the easiest way to pull through in my real estate work. Having 3 boys, a 5-year-old preschooler, and 2-year-old twins, you can imagine the nerve-whacking noise and merriment that they bring. So, I cannot afford to get a voice job, to say the least.
I enlist the help of my husband. I never believed that husbands who work should not help in the household because they are too tired or because they bring money on the table. Husbands should also do their fair share of household work. Why? Because it will teach them empathy. It will make them feel how we feel– the exhaustion, frustration, and fulfillment. They will also set a good example to your kids. Remember, kids, learn by what you show them, not by what you tell them.
I do not put too much pressure on myself (and my husband) doing the household tasks alone. I invest in automatic appliances and outsource the chores when needed. I am telling you, this is life-changing. I do not oblige myself to accomplish all these tasks because I also need to take care of my health. I see to it that when I am tired, I let someone else wash the clothes or iron them. When I am too exhausted to cook, I opt for food delivery.
I set a routine. However, I also remind myself not to get upset and be flexible whenever it is not followed. At 7:30 pm, we turn our lights out so by 8 pm, the kids should be all asleep. I start my work at 8:45 pm and finish it at 6:00 am, if there is an unfinished task, I do it on weekends. My twins wake up during my working hours which is, I must admit quite stressful because my work gets interrupted. But what do I do? I just embrace it, breathe, let it go and start again. Then, I cook our food and we eat at 7:00 am. From 8:00 am until 10:30 am is the kids’ playtime and I bathe them afterward. I cook food for lunch, eat at noon and we all take a nap until 3:00 pm. At 6:00 pm, my husband readies for work. My husband and I sleep around 4 to 6 hours a day but we see to it that we get full sleep on weekends.
If there is a will, there is a way. Overused line, but true. If I can do it, you can also do it. There are lots of online jobs hiring that you can find nowadays. I believe that the number of opportunities online equates the number of ways that you can manage to work at home.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Janica Anne Montaos is a mother of wonderful kids. She is a Real Estate Virtual Assitant who is currently assigned as the Director of Client Services in one of the top brokerage firms in Texas.